Still Alice, When Alzheimer’s Strikes

Hearts are turned inside out, when Alzheimer’s arrives at our doorstep.

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Not long ago I read the book Still Alice and a few days ago watched the movie version of the book.

The book and the movie brought tears to my eyes. The writers of the book and the movie, brought the emotion of an intelligent educated woman who experienced the early onset of Alzheimer’s and opened her heart bare before us.

The book and movie reveals to us everyday raw emotion in an impossible situation. The deep struggle of the woman, when she received the diagnosis, along with losing touch with everything dear to her.

The adult children grappling with the fact that the day would arrive when the mother they loved would not recognize their faces.

A husband who loved his wife dearly, grappling with his wife’s illness. At the beginning denial, and a continued all consuming love for his wife, and his adult children as her mind descended into blankness.

For a few minutes I pressed pause for the video, because this story was taking me back to  a time long ago.

I recall the day my Grandfather visited our home. He was sitting in a chair in our living room with his head in his hands. He was crying, and repeating over and over, “I can’t find my way home. I don’t know how to get home.”

My mother stood next to him and was trying to console him.

I have never forgotten that day, because this was the day we all realized my Grandfather was no longer able to be alone.

You see, my Grandfather lived in a house a short distance from  my parent’s. For me this experience was sudden.

My Grandfather was not as young as the Alice we read about in the book or watch in the movie. He was elderly, but this did not make it any easier. The Grandfather who was always in my life from the day I was born, was gone.

Today I was looking through a few photos from long ago. One of the photos touched my heart and brought a smile to my lips. It is a photo of my Grandfather holding my tiny little daughter, who is now not far from being 40 years old.

It is a special photo, that I will cherish forever and eventually I will pass it on to my daughter who is the baby he is holding.

Emotion, tears, anger, rejection, sadness, joy, rage, denial, loss, love, perseverance. All real emotions we will experience in our lives. Raw, revealing, and hearts exposed to the reader and movie watcher.

To my writing friends; don’t be afraid to reveal emotions in your writing. In this way we will touch the hearts of our readers in ways that may even bring healing to their lives.

 

 

Writing, Reading and Schedules

How to fit into our lives what we love. Writing, reading and time.

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In my last post I wrote about writing styles and working on revisions for a conference I lead on relationships.

I am finding I am doing better at writing in small chunks when I must change styles. How about you?

This week it was time to change my writing style once again. I am still not working on the community book, BUT I am getting closer.

From Monday to Friday

I wrote the script for a podcast, aired live and filled in many blanks for the course. I wrote copy for a power point and recorded a companion video.

In the middle of all of this I managed to read a few pages in a biography. Format- hard cover book! Why? This moves me away from my technology for a short time.

Next week it is time to take the step! What step? It is time to place into my schedule a time to work on the book focused on community. (I mentioned it in the previous blog post.)

This will be a challenging week, because it will require me to move from online course writing to book writing, to podcasting!

How about you; are you willing to be stretched in your writing style, reading style and schedule?

If we really want to reach a goal, including goals that do not include writing we must be willing to incorporate self discipline into our life.

A few simple tips-

  • Set up one day a week to review your schedule. Place a time for writing in your schedule. Even if you can only squeeze in 30 minutes every other day, some is better than none.
  •  Recently I placed a timer app on my PC. Suggestion- Decide how much time you have to write. Shut off all notification sounds on your devices. This time is only for writing!
  • This is how I set up my writing time. I shut off my smart phone. I turn off all of the notifications on my PC. I work best at my desk. I move anything on my desk that may distract me to another place. I close my office blinds to stop from glancing out the window. My favorite cup of coffee is on the left and now it is time to begin.
  • Once again a reminder- Get rid of all or nothing thinking and write, write, write.
  • Add reading to your schedule. Read, read, read. Read different styles of books. If we only read one style of writing eventually we may become stuck. Stretch yourself into the land of unfamiliar reading styles.
  • Go for a walk, and ponder your writing project. Take your phone with you and record your thoughts for later. Even if you never use the recording it will assist your mind to focus on your writing as you walk.
  • Most importantly – relax and enjoy your times of writing. Let the words flow. Stop and take a deep breathe and begin again.

My blog post time is up! It is now time for me to go back and work on the writing for the online Relationship Course. I scheduled 30 minutes more and then it is time to relax.

Happy writing, and please do not be afraid of writing in and reading various styles. In today’s world they are only a keystroke or screen slide away.

Staying on the writing journey with you.

Nancy J.

The Relationship Institute

 

 

The Dance of The Writer and The Reader

The struggle of writing. Too honest and transparent or not enough.

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Be honest, be transparent. Oh no, you are too honest. You are too transparent.

Honesty and transparency is a dance. A dance of what to say and what not to say. A dance of not saying enough and saying too much.

Honesty and transparency. A dance of what to write and what not to write.

The dance of readers, the writer writes with too much honesty and transparency.

The dance of readers, the writer is not honest enough or transparent enough.

The dance of the writer and the reader.

Forever a struggle.

 

When Writing And Travel Is Boring

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Today was a rough day. Not that anything bad happened, but for some reason I was having problems working on the required tasks to bring my book to completion.

There are days that require us to work on the mundane. We are not flying anywhere on an airplane, we are not writing anything exciting. Instead we are sitting at a desk.

For those who travel, we know that behind the scenes there is preparation that must take place. I tell my friends when the time is approaching for me to board a plane. Hey, whether I am ready or not the plane is going to leave, I love you, but I cannot spend time with you right now.

Today was a mundane day, and it was necessary to have limited conversations with people. It was time to upload the book, “A Heart That Seeks,” It is now waiting in the que to be reviewed. I get one last chance for edits and then it will be available in paperback and kindle.

Ah…I should be celebrating, but instead I am thinking about the next 2 books in the series of 3. A writers world never stops, neither does the preparation for travel.

In the middle of all this writing I am preparing for international travel. In our world today traveling is not as easy as it use to be.

To my writing and traveling friends. Don’t give up. There will be times that writing and traveling is boring! It is not in the exciting where we grow and mature. Instead we grow as we persevere in our everyday tasks. The pay off will be when we hold the book in our hand, or see it as an ebook, or board the plane.